5 Things New Moms Never Talk About

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I think that the more children that you have the easier it is to talk about almost anything. 

During childbirth and the post-exams that follow, our body parts are on display for all to see. 

So when it comes to talking about details of childbirth and the unusual things that happen afterward, for most experienced moms it comes easy. 

Sadly many new moms can be shy or timid when it comes to sharing childbirth experiences, their emotions, and what happens when you come home from the hospital. 

It shouldn’t be this way. Moms of all experiences should feel open and comfortable to talk to other moms about their pre and post-birth experiences along with everything in between. 

Childbirth is not easy but it does come with a lot of common experiences that many women share.

Here are 5 Things New Moms Never Talk About.

1. Hemorrhoids– They might be embarrassing to talk about because of where they are located but hemorrhoids during and/or right after pregnancy are very common. From my knowledge, these can be caused by pushing during childbirth or in my case pushing while being constipated during pregnancy. Trust me, these are nothing to be embarrassed about but are something you need to call your gastroenterologist about immediately so they can determine if your hemorrhoid can be sliced or if it has to go away on its own. Do not be too embarrassed to call your doctor. 
2. Crying– Crying uncontrollably is very normal. I would cry at commercials and most things that I would normally not ever cry about. I remember my firstborn was graduating Kindergarten and my third child was around 1-2 weeks old. I never cry at events like this but for whatever uncontrollable hormonal reason I could not stop crying. I had to use my child’s burped-up bib to dry my eyes. 
3. Hygiene– Do not be surprised if you go days without bathing. As new moms, it takes time to figure out our baby’s schedule and how to incorporate their schedule with our schedule. So it is normal to walk around with overly grown armpit hair, burp up stains on your shoulder, and sometimes a little bit of baby poop on your arm that you somehow missed when you washed your hands and wrists after diaper changing. 
4. Exhaustion– Your world has been turned upside down, in a good way of course. Expect to be exhausted. Do not be embarrassed and lie if you take a nap and someone calls. Do not be too shy to ask for help. Neighbors, friends, and family want to help. Most of them understand what being a new parent is like.
5. Postpartum Belly– For me, after I gave birth to my girls the last thing I was thinking about was exercise but I was thinking about my postpartum belly. After birth, your belly will be jiggly and loose. A baby literally just came out of it after housing in it for around 9 months or more so this is not unusual but you need to wear a belly wrap. This is important. You need to tighten your belly back to pre-birth so your belly wrap or girdle needs to become your new best friend. Lastly, once you are healed from childbirth it is important that you do the exercises that your doctor recommended. If you do not do this you will regret it. Trust me. You will want your stomach muscles back. 

With all of the stresses and worries that come with childbirth, it is important that you not be too shy or timid to talk about your experiences and/or ask for help. 

When you share your childbirth experiences you not only realize that you are not the only one that most likely experienced what you experienced but you can potentially learn from other moms.